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My good friend Lucius Scribbens wrote a piece that made me think.

I’ve always been fascinated by the concept of Polyamory, but never really desired to be a participant. I enjoy my relationships when they’re simple and relatively uncluttered (3rd relationships…Primary Relationships (and their expectations) are handled differently).

In BDSM, Poly relationships seem to be extremely common while Open relationships do not.

In Swinging it’s the opposite. Although there seems to be a heavy Poly component rising in the last few years.

In the Vanilla world? Well…there’s an HBO romance with Polyamory, Swinging and BDSM. People are fascinated by alternative lifestyles (I think they secretly fantasize about such things) while the lip service provided is usually negative.

DE and I don’t do much “Swinging” any more…we’ve gotten a bit tired of that game. Our relationship is Open and we’ve even talked about the two of us and a Poly third (or fourth…etc.) The conversation kind of turned towards this:

We love many of our friends – especially the friends we have sex with and/or beat for fun. But does that make us Polyamorous? No, not really.

4-play

Since DE has a particular desire towards women pretty much all of our Solo/Single play partners are female (although DE will hook up with an occasional male). It’s likely that we’d bring a woman into our relationship as a Third/sub/slave/pet. I know (from experience) that it’s far more difficult for a woman to feel secure and comfortable in a relationship as a Third. Scribbens is right, you often hear them voice concern over getting too attached and never really “getting anywhere”.

Is this why We haven’t sought or taken in a Poly lover? Do we passively avoid this out of a desire to keep our own relationship simplified and “drama-free”?

Yes and Yes. There are a few people DE and I have had the Poly discussion about, and we could probably build something to fit if we decided to go there — but we’re not in a hurry.

It’s far more likely we’d take a sub/slave/pet and keep the relationship in that realm. I can see an arrangement like that morphing into a Polyamorous triad, and that’s likely why it’s so common in the BDSM Lifestyle.

Who knows. I’m one of the LAST people you’d ever want “Relationship Advice” from…heheh.

-Tutivillus

The classic definition of Figging is the sexual act of inserting ginger into the anus. This is now expanded in modern times to also include insertion into the vagina or urethra. The burning sensation is said to induce intense pleasure.

Well…it DID produce a burning sensation around my clit and inside my pussy. It was a delicious burn combined with being tied up, flogged and teased.
Anyone else tried or wanted to try?

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An article I agree with completely!

I’ve seen a few Corset Piercings gone wrong. I take what these guys have to say as words from an experienced source.

“Seriously, WTF? Start doing corset piercings properly”

Corset Piercings

I was reading Simon Blaise’s blog after DE pointed out a particular entry.

It’s interesting…odd and a little confusing to me why this Kink lifestyle we live is so often times closed. I don’t mean we should be going forth and beating strangers on the street.  I’m talking more about the knowledge we all gain and chose to share (or not, in this case) it with everyone willing to learn!

I’ve trained, or helped train, many subs and Dominants. I made the choice to place myself in the role of Mentor because I love learning and teaching the various aspects in this array of dark arts. I had many impressive and wonderful teachers. These people took me in and gave me the knowledge they had. It only makes sense that I would be obliged to pass that knowledge to others as I build on the foundation I was given.

Why is this knowledge horded? Who will take what you know and continue with it?

The point is this. My name as a legacy is Not what I want from life. What life has taught me, what I have learned and what others DO with the life I shared!

That is the point.

This lifestyle is no different. It’s merely a facet of the greater whole.

If you are closed here, then what else have you shuttered?

-Tutivillus

10.23.08 – Half-Naked Thursday.

Today? “Chain Dancing”.

HNT Chain Dancing

Take a party full of mostly naked people, add music, chains, kink and very beautiful DE? Well, you get some fun pics!

-Tutivillus

Electrical Play. I love it. There is something about the fear of electricity morphing into pleasure that seriously draws me in.

For many of us, the best place to start is with a TENS unit. Plan on around $60 for a decent starter unit.

Conductive Gel is always a good idea for play.

And let us not forget the Electrode Pads. You’ll burn through these. Luckily I found a deal on some pads that work great for play. 10 packages of 4 electrodes for under $20.

Now, how does one play with electricity? Stay tuned…we’ll get to that.

-Tutivillus

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Our guest for the evening was going to be a little late. No worries.

DarlingEvil continued to get ready while I brought the camera and the lights into the bedroom. It had been a little while since we took pictures and DE had a new pair of boots for Halloween.

Kinky Boots

She slipped new Halloween panties, pink and black striped stockings, the boots and her collar. I positioned myself raised the camera and started.

Posing for the camera

Always a good time. Toys and tools all came into play during the shoot.

The baton

Needless to say, it was a great way to burn an extra hour before our guest arrived.

DE awaits our guest

-Tutivillus

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“Take off your panties.” I ordered.

There was a moment’s hesitation. I stepped forward.

“Do it Now.”

T stripped off her thong, standing naked before DE, the camera and me.

More flashes from the camera as DE captured her exposed body. I guided her to the chair, instructed her to kneel — facing the back, ass facing us. Grabbing her by the ankles, I spread T’s legs and began a slow, steady series of open-handed blows on her bare ass.

Flogging T

After the red began to show on her white flesh I took up the flogger. Soft, slow sweeps across her shoulders and down to her ass brought moans. Intensity increased. Faster, harder, louder. DE maneuvered through the blows and captured the scene. T’s skin reddened. Loud smacks from the flogger were traded with sharp cracks as I brought in the paddles. Welts and bruises began to form. T groaned, moaned…eyes closed, falling into sub-space.

Raven

It was time for her to stand. A test was in order.

We have a slapper with a tapered handled. I slipped a condom over the handle and slid it into T’s soaked pussy.

The test

“Do not! Let that slapper fall. Hold it or you WILL be punished.” I said evenly. “Do you understand?”

“Yes Sir” she said, voice wavering.

The flogger landed hard. T’s hair flew as the falls reddened her shoulders. She cried out as side-sweeps marked her ass. The slapper began to slip. I grabbed her hair and spanked, hard.

DE’s camera caught the slapper falling to the floor.

I pushed T, kneeling, onto the chair again.

“You let it fall. Now you have to be punished!”

She was chanting “no” as I grabbed the hairbrush paddle and gave T a solid beating. She reached back to stop it and I pinned her hands, still swinging the paddle. Tears flowed.

Wet

After a few minutes I held her. Reassured her. De came forward and embraced her. Together we took her to the bed and blindfolded her, bound her hands.

She almost came as we teased her breast, nipples and clit…but that release was denied. I asked her if she wanted to come. She replied with a near breathless “yes”.

Happy T

DE handed me a small, spiked barrel roller which I began to tease around her swollen, wet pussy. T arched, squirmed, moaned loudly as the roller’s spikes pressed down on her exposed clit. I slid a finger into her and slowly worked it against her rhythmic motion. On the edge of orgasm, fingers rubbing her clit, I leaned close.

The mower

“Don’t come T.”

She grunted loudly, shifting into a low guttural moan that drew on for long seconds.

“Please.Sir” Gasps between moans.

“No.”

DE handed me the Eroscillator. I switched it on to the medium setting, pulled the hood back from her clit and pressed the knobby head of the toy down.

“Come” I whispered.

T exploded in a loud, shuddering groan.

We played for another hour after that, the three of us…but little of it had to do with Dominance or submission. It was about fucking, exploring and establishing our relationship.

Is this a scene I would recommend to anyone else? Hell no! DE is a very unique partner, T is a very unique and respectful Ex. This type of play is an Edge that would destroy many relationships.

For us it made for wonderful play.

Aftermath

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A few toys

DarlingEvil and I arrived, checked in and moved quickly. We made a few drinks, placed toys, set a radio by the door (a fairly critical component when playing at a hotel, mind you). With everything prepared, we sat, talked strategy, checked-in with each other and chatted about our day.

My phone rang signaling T’s arrival. I led her into the hotel and our room. Her eyes glanced from lamp to table — slightly nervous at the sight of what awaited her.

DE handed her a drink. We talked for a few minutes. She stood.

“Are you ready?” I asked.

“Yes” T replied.

I smiled, reached behind her, slid my hand through her hair and took a handful.

“What?” I asked.

“Yes Sir.”

Undressing T

DE had wanted to observe this scene…document it in pictures. She wanted to watch me Dominate a sub and T was an ideal sub for this type of scene. She had knowledge of protocol, attitude, the ability to take almost anything and Trust.

Despite all this, she admitted later her Flight response nearly kicked in.

I began to undress her — removing her shirt, laying her on the bed and pulling off her pants. I left her exposed in only a tiny thong as DE maneuvered with the camera…flash blazing.

Collaring T

T stood on command when I pulled a small training collar from its resting place. When I tightened it on her neck she made a quiet sigh. I stood, holding her by the hair and posed her for DE and the camera.

T figeted nervously…nude exposure was a weakness to exploit.

“Stand. Do not move” I ordered.

Scratch the flesh

I turned her to face the bed, kneeled behind her…ran my nails down her back, over her ass and inside her thighs. T marks well. The scratches glared and I turned her again and scratched her breasts, her stomach.

She moaned as I stood behind her, pulled her roughly into me.

Warming the submissive

I covered T’s mouth, took a nipple between my fingers and rolled it, pinched then pulled. They were hard. With T, the nipples are an erotic switch. Activate the switch correctly and you wake the machine.

Her body began to soften. Her breath was signaling a readiness for the next stage.

A chair was nearby…I decided it was time to play.

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-Tutivillus