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Topics: Auto-asphyxiation, TNG (revisited) and UTBDSM

Auto-erotic and erotic asphyxiation/breath play. Are there safe methods?

Joined by Jacean and MakeMeSmile to discuss and displell the myths surrounding TNG and its place in the BDSM community.

Links:

• www.tng-i.com
• boymeat.org/riogrande.htm
• www.dungeonplace.com/utbdsm
• groups.google.com/group/utbdsm

Panel Members: Tutivillus, DarlingEvil (DE), Goddess, Gamer, Jody, Chris, Gryphon, DannyJo, Sythen, Meow, Jacean, MakeMeSmile

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I’ve written about this before and one bit we can all agree on?

This is an issue with a fight behind it.

The reasons behind a lack of sex in Scenes at public parties are long, varied and possibly tragic. Sometimes I wish they’d change…othertimes I’m happy with them being the way they are.

(I miss the Grottos and Nookie Rooms)…

Granted, sex is Not a required component to a good BDSM scene…it can be a fun one. Sexual Domination is a great skill when used properly!

So I’m curious.

What are your thoughts?

Would Sex during Scenes freak you out or add to the experience?

Sound off!

photo credit: Katayun

My Podcast Alley feed! {pca-582ac55a7ffe7156b2b0d06ebe8ad7a3}

@DarlingEvil and I were sitting in Olive Garden waiting for our order and watching a summer storm crash against the mountains. It was Friday night – busy, noisy, but completely tolerable.

I began explaining a scene I’d been thinking out but realized my words were lacking. I didn’t have my Moleskine handy, so I grabbed my phone and drew out the Scene in Evernote.

kinky evernote

(Yeah, it’s a very basic drawing…but that’s okay. There was also a bit of Comedic commentary running along with it.)

I love drawing out Scenes while I’m planning. I usually sketch them in my Moleskine then snap a picture and upload it to Evernote. But in a pinch? It’s nice to draw them out on the phone itself. (No, this isn’t a paid ad.)

A bonus? I handed this around to several people (a.k.a. victims) and they actually interpreted the drawing without much explanation.

So my kinky friends…take this tool and love all over it!

(For an explanation of Evernote itself? Go to their Site.)

You may notice…this post is not for everyone.

Orgies are interesting things. Tangles of asses and elbows thrown onto whatever furniture is handy…much of which is uncomfortable (they just don’t make Orgy-Friendly furniture!)

Bodies hit the floor, chairs, tables, bedstands. More people learn to puzzle onto a bed than makes sense. Moments often find pieces of yourself rubbing against another’s flesh, unintentional. So you reach out and touch – stroke, grab, tease…taste. All the while occupied in the ways of forbidden sex.

The noises are either distracting or arousing. Then all goes to hell and a flurry of jokes break loose only to be eventually muffled by body parts and the sounds of sex.

Smells. What can be said about the smells? Alcohol, smoke, the smell of women, the smell of men. It surrounds you…and you simply don’t care.

If you’re one of the pieces on the bed, puzzling out your own little corner of sex, you have to deal with another’s rhythm. Or many other rhythm’s…all rolling across the same mattress. All hitting you in strange ways. You either adapt and form a uniform movement that’s compatible with all the fucking or you get off the bed.

I prefer to lead…my rhythm is a good one. And my song is strong.

Observers float in and out. People finish and move through. You can feel strangers touching you, taking you in or wanting to take you. You either flow or just don’t.

Invitations are often eye-level only. Across a room you’ll see your next move – and you simply point yourself there.and.go.

Women have the advantage.
Men can have the most fun.

And yes…sometimes people look bored.

Love ‘em or hate ‘em…everyone should have at least 1.

-Tutivillus

Conversation across the Lines yesterday sparked many a thought – leading to a deep thread of consciousness about the philosophy of “Tutivillus and BDSM”.

I won’t bore you with that…buy the book.

MindnBody and Swiss

Here’s what I will say about the thoughts on plots and schemes.

For many of us, being Kinky is about Balance. It’s not about getting our cocks hard, our pussies wet, our rocks off or the secret thrills.

-Although, there is a lot of that…I consider it a benefit of the Lifestyle.

BDSM is part of a Life Balance that allows us to acknowledge and claim (completely) who we are.

I, for instance, am a man with a pretty heavy payload of Dark. Years and tears and self-loathing and reflection have taught me that it’s simply bullshit to deny who I am. There’s many a path to follow where Tutivillus can be true to his own nature and still follow the simple rule “Do what you will and harm no one”.

-Sure…if you want to define “Harm” literally, then you need to pull a stick out of your ass. Look around you and get with the vibe my friend.

Most of the BDSM practitioners I know are similar vessels. Whether we’re wielding the whip or feeling it’s lash…we’re all embracing who and what we are.

And it’s a very, very wonderful thing.

I love Zippers. I’ve written about them before and have done a few photo shoots with Zipper scenes.

The process, to me, is similar to Shibari.

Concentration, instruction, planning, the correct tools, the right submissive…all things and people in their place at the right time.

Now I’m wanting to expand that, make it something more…take it to another place.

Multi-body Zipper

The mechanics are still in the works, but the thought is solid.

I want many minions, many clips, many feet of cord…and eventually? Many screams.

It WILL be glorious!

Okay, so they’re all of Our podcasts.

I’ve created a Podcast page and will be creating a feed for that page and redirecting the iTunes listing to reflect that.

MUCH more convenient!

Check it out.

On a serious note.

Saturday DE and I are getting married. A right Everyone should have.

Period.

On a personal note…

Business is where the conversation started, love is where it really began and where it will always be. DE is the person who has always been That person for me through this and many other lives – I knew it from our first words and it was reinforced at first sight.

I remember her from all those cycles past and I’ll find her in all the cycles to come.

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Ahem.

Good evening. If you listened to Episode 4 of the FetishCast you heard me dig several holes for myself in the TNG conversation.

First, please allow me to not apologize for any of it. If you didn’t listen carefully, well, that’s your problem.

Second, most of my experience with this form of…”age play” comes from other Lifestyles. I admit that clearly. I don’t have any experience with TNG and I make that pretty clear. I’ve not had any issues with TNG players, nor do I have any issues with them now.

This is why I’ve invited a very vocal member of the TNG community onto a future episode.

Do I think this is kinda silly behavior? At face value? Yes! I do! Am I willing to be shown that it isn’t? Yes! I am!

Folks, take nothing you hear on this podcast personally.

I, Tutivillus, am not here to eat your babies, steal your women (or boi’s) nor am I here to disrupt your Gorean chat rooms.

Feel free to direct any and all feedback to dungeonplace@gmail.com

We love you listeners.

xoxo

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