Sex and the Scene

Tutivillus

Slave to the TradeI’ve written about this before and one bit we can all agree on?

This is an issue with a fight behind it.

The reasons behind a lack of sex in Scenes at public parties are long, varied and possibly tragic. Sometimes I wish they’d change…othertimes I’m happy with them being the way they are.

(I miss the Grottos and Nookie Rooms)…

Granted, sex is Not a required component to a good BDSM scene…it can be a fun one. Sexual Domination is a great skill when used properly!

So I’m curious.

What are your thoughts?

Would Sex during Scenes freak you out or add to the experience?

Sound off!

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  • hankhollman
    The 'ban' is about as false as Clinton claiming he 'did not have sex with that woman'; pure unfiltered BS! In many cases where forbidden, it still exists and the DM's miss it or are too busy being a voyeur. That said, the ban is beyond ridiculous as safe sex ought to be the true focus as well as the option for privacy.
    America claims to be a free country, yet we deny or shame the most basic freedom, sexual preference. As kink groups we espouse freedom in this realm in one breath and in the next impose restrictions on our own activities - ludicris & hypocritical.
  • Truman
    I for one have been around awhile and have seen many scenes with sex in them, yea our first play party we saw a man getting fucked in the ass by a woman with a strap on, while another woman fucked his mouth with one as well and a 3rd woman gave him a hand job.. It was a little shocking to say the least, but no more so than the Master caning his naked boy up stairs 20 mins prior, or the fact that My girl was used by our host to show off a hot Girl getting beat... lol we loved it and went away wanting more. So I am for doing things with taste and letting new people know what is going on and what may happen and if they are uncomfortable then they need to know they can move to another area. I have since been to several of the local play parties and all sexual contact has been put to very g mode and I think that the scenes could have been more for everyone if they had gone to r or better. But I also understand we do not want to offend any one as well just do those type scenes in a room that can have the door closed and or that has been set up to do those type scenes. Just my thoughts....
  • Grottos or Nookie Rooms are the general standard for sensitive parties - a place where scenes of a sexual nature can be carried out in private or at least have a "Buyer Beware" label. State Laws also come into play...which still boggles me in Private Parties, but hey! We vote these laws and the folks that make them into existence.

    My personal opinion is this: You're attending a BDSM party. Sexuality is one of the key elements. Anyone attending should simply expect to see scenes of a sexual nature and *lighten up!!*

    Play safe (define "safe" your own special way). That should be our concern, not "Play safe and always consider your audience."
  • TheCatzMeow
    I for one... personally fantasize of being striped, bound, blindfolded, gaged & used in "public" by many... It is just finding that one that I trust to protect me as I let go of myself.

    lol However, house rules come first. I think it is hot, and I personally find myself aroused to see sex. Makes me want some! lol

    Just my two cents!
  • This is a long standing debate in the community. Ah well...sometimes it
    takes time if things ever change.
  • I've been to play spaces that permit sex in the dungeon, and plenty that don't. I think that sex (genital to oral, anal or vaginal penetration) fits well into public play, and shouldn't be restricted. We make a big deal out of sex, but if you've been to events where a lot of people are having it, it's not as earth shattering as you might think. Plenty of my kink isn't sexual in the manner of seeking an orgasm, so I'm not too concerned if play spaces continue to restrict sex, but I think as a community we should be receptive and encouraging of each other to be more sex positive, even in public spaces.
  • True...as a Nation, our Puritan roots dig deep. The only way around that is being sex positive.
  • GamerUK
    I'm a voyeur mostly at public parties.
    I talk, I discuss, I take inspiration from what I see. Sex as part of the scene falls into my voyeuristic spectrum, though I do have mixed views on this. If it flows as part of the scene then I'm all for it. Sex as deliberate exhibitionism, yeah, cool. Sex as reinforcing dominance, absolutely. Sex all the time, by the same players, in similar scenes- lack of imagination?

    There's already a degree of 'sex' in most scenes (removal of clothes, caressing naked flesh, pinching, kissing, tweaking body parts). So, what degree of sex are we talking here? Applying forced orgasm using a Hitachi? penetration using penis or strap on? group sex? How intense is the scene intended to be?


    Just an opinion, and some thoughts. We still have to abide by the House Rules in addition to common courtesy anyways.
  • I agree, there is a degree of sex. There's also a barrier.

    I just find it interesting that we've created that barrier for ourselves...
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