I was asked recently about how I would introduce someone to the world of BDSM. I thought about it, and decided I prefer my way best. I do this by suggesting somewhere everyone involved can be comfortable, with little or no time constraint, get a drink and talk about ideas, thoughts and desires, and often, expectations.
So, after getting a couple of basic thoughts and precautions out of the way, where do I begin? Certainly there are forms of verbal and mental dominance that can be practiced anywhere, even by text and email if you cannot, or aren’t ready to, meet face to face, although online feels too surreal and ‘distant’ to me,(you are not to talk to strangers, you can only wear blue clothing today, you need to ask the person in charge/boss/supervisor if you can use the bathroom every time you need it).
For more physical play, I tend to start with a little wax play, or a spanking. The wax is fun, messy, just a little kinky and yet not too far from Vanilla. Spanking, well that’s another matter entirely.
To me, spanking a woman can be taken in several different directions. I find it intimate; the closeness, the scent of her, the warmth as I pull her tight to me as she positions herself over my knee.
I prefer a woman in bra and panties over my knee, but it’s also a thrill when I have a woman in a skirt needing a spanking. Instructing her to raise the rear to expose her panties and loosen her blouse. Have her drape herself across my knees and lock her in place with the elbow of my ‘free’ arm and proceed to caress and gently warm her backside with my hand. I use it frequently as either punishment or reward (bad girls are spanked; good girls are spanked and get ice-cream).
This spanking process lets me break someone into my world of Kink gently. It can be a great alone or as foreplay, as warm up to (or cool down from) a more intense scene. It is also a doorway to more play, and further discussions as interest is piqued.
Oh yes, and I enjoy it.
