Myspace, Facebook, Twitter, Wave, Buzz, Messenger, Yahoo? How many do you use? And, perhaps more importantly, how many do you use to look for/contact partners with?
With online dating, and instant conversations, I wonder if ’ The age of deception’ wasn’t reborn? We are able to chase the partner of our dreams and find them (anywhere in the World), although unless you web-cam, or meet up, the person using pixels could well be deceiving you in some way. While they could just be shy, they can also be a vastly different age, height, weight, could be a vice-squad sting team looking for pedophiles, or lying about what sex/orientation they are.
Does that really matter? Are you looking for a hookup? Then the truth probably matters a fair bit. If I was wanting sex with a beautiful, younger, athletic, intellectual women I’ve clicked with online and be tapped on the shoulder by Bernard, an older guy with receding hairline, bad teeth and severe B.O. I’d be angered because I’d been lied to, and it’s not what I’m after. I’m pretty open minded and will happily have a conversation with anyone no matter their sexual orientation (pedophiles need not apply) but I also know what pushes my buttons when it comes to arousal.
However, if you’re looking to have your senses stimulated by the above “beautiful, younger, athletic, intellectual women” then if you’re not seeing ‘her’ or actually going to meet up, then who cares if Bernard is getting his rocks off at the same time, pretending to be his alter-ego and swapping deviant desires and getting jiggy with you?
The point is, to look at what you want and create the encounter that satisfies on the level you want/need (and yes, for all involved). Cyber may not be the complete answer to real life sexual and BDSM encounters, but circumstance or ’simple’ shyness may require a release in a more discreet manner. I suggest everyone should at least try cyber. Even if it’s not as fulfilling as you expect or want, it can be a fun option.
After all, isn’t the path to great sex/kink achieved through mental build up of some sort?
- Gamer
