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• What is abuse in a kink/BDSM relationship?
• Is there a difference between abuse in the ‘vanilla’ and kink community?
• What do we do about abuse in the Kink/BDSM Community?

Utah 2009 report on Domestic Violence: http://media.bonnint.net/slc/1702/170296/17029623.pdf

National Leather Association Domestic Violence Project: http://www.nlaidvproject.us/
The vision of the NLA-I Domestic Violence Project is to create a national and international network to provide information, appropriate referrals, resources, and safe shelters for those in the world community who have been subjected to abusive and violent BDSM relationships and who are seeking a way out of those relationships or who require a more extensive support network than is otherwise available to them.

Site of the day: http://www.thenetworklared.org/smvsabuse.htm

This is the site we used to define abuse in Kink, S/M and BDSM relationships for this episodes of the podcast.

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Panel: Tutivillus, DarlingEvil, Scarlett, Goddess, Novice

Tags: podcast, abuse, bdsm, kinky, s/m, relationships, abusive relationships, bdsm abuse, kink abuse, support network, fetishcast, dungeonplace, domestic violence, vanilla, national leather association

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There’s a fine line, often blurred by twisted emotions, manipulations and dark illnesses left untreated. In our Community it can be common, spread by a few onto many unwilling victims.

How does one deal with a D/s relationship gone dark?

• First? Get the hell out!
  
• Call the Police. Although we’re often taught the Police may not be our friendliest Allie, in this case they most certainly are (in most cases you’ll find the Law is very much your friend).
• Do not feed Drama, but if you’re in a tightly knit community with common, public parties?
• …Get a Restraining Order. You may well have to quietly inform event organizers of the Order and provide a copy as proof.
• Did I mention “Do Not Feed Drama”?
• Take NOTHING personally.
• Do not put yourself in a vulnerable position! Protect yourself (legally) and your property (these cowards enjoy taking frustrations out on property).

There are many other recommendations and advices to be given. I’d love to hear them.

Care to share?

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Episode 1 of the Sadist podcast.

Tutivillus wonders “How do you know if you’re a Sadist?”

Schadenfreude!

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An article to read in Psychology Today.

The Pleasure of Pain – Find out why one in 10 of us is into S&M.

A friend of mine (and fairly new submissive to the scene) contacted me and related a familiar tale of unfair woe.

A casual relationship ends, she lets it be known that she is kinky. Man freaks and begins the abuse, using the kink as a pivot for abuse (did we mention that he’s vanilla?)

A word folks.

We’re not broken. We’re actually fairly normal! We’re just honest with ourselves.

Next time anyone tries to abuse you because you’re in touch with your sexuality? Thank them, smile and walk away…forever.

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