Take a picture in a very dark room (make it pitch black). Put a beautiful model in that dark, let the flames fly and open the shutter.
This is what you get.
When it comes to play I love fire. Yes, it’s great as a tool on skin – but it’s even better when used on the mind. Your submissive doesn’t even need to see it.
The sound.
The heat…the mind magnifies a flame and twists it into a skin crisping inferno.
The body strains against bonds. Mouths stretch around the gag in muffled protests … or screams. Eyes widen white.
Yes, it’s a very common fetish, but I’ve got it. I have that strange fascination with looking (leering in a dumbfounded, brain-addled gaze) at naked Asian women.
A funny thing happened while recording this episode. The dog (yeah, a real dog who wanders about the house while we record these podcasts) knocked over the recorder. We caught it, but didn’t realize we’d hit the pause button. So this episode cuts off at around 49 minutes.
To help make up for this atrocity, I’ve included the pre-show.
The dog has now been banned from future recordings.
Topic 1: Reader Question Hey, have been listening to the episode 1 re-release and it got me thinking. I’ve never been to a play party, in fact I only went to my first fetish event (the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar) 3 months ago with my Master, and while I want to play publically and go to events like that, it terrifies me. However, the reason it scares me is because I’m worried that people will judge me because I don’t look like I belong in the scene. I’m a girly girl, I like to follow fashion, I wear a fair amount of pink and I’m generic in every other aspect of life apart from my kink. I am aware that that sounds pretty judgemental in itself because I’m sure loads of kinksters are exactly the same, but when we went to the BBB 90% of the people there were obviously kinky or gothic, etc. So basically my question is: should I be terrified? and Should I dress differently at fetish events?
Topic 2: Insert Here! Your favorite Kink-related Insertable play!
Topic 3: (For the Panel) What’s your Kinky New Year’s Resolution/Goal?
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Portable, easily concealable Suspension Tripods are a goal sought by many a Kink! There’s a Great discussion going on over at Fetlife about them.
If you are willing to spend a bit of cash (not much, really) and take the time to learn, here’s the basics you’ll need to know.
BondageLessons.com has a rundown on the materials and techniques. See the page Here.
YouTube has a great video showing us all how to tie a tripod. I’ve included it below.
This really is a cool bit of technique for anyone interested in building a basic, portable suspension rig.
Just remember…BE CAREFUL!! And you do this at your own risk. Any suspension is dangerous and DungeonPlace.com takes no responsibility for your actions.
I have a friend with a fetish that’s a good example of the case. He is a controlling guy who can’t stop feeling sexually jealous of the wife he’s been with for ten years. When she made a cake for her officemates last month, he complained that she was trying to seduce a coworker. When she flirted with a waiter once, he went into a rage at the restaurant.
In the bedroom, only one strange scenario satisfies him. He likes to be faux-humiliated–or made a cuckold in the form of play. About once a week, the couple goes online to find a woman willing to join in their specific bedroom scenario. The scene is always roughly the same: The husband tries to seduce the new woman, but she rejects him. She says she’d rather have his wife. The two women engage each other, all along verbally berating the man, calling him “cuckold,” “frat boy,” “limp dick.” The humiliation excites and satisfies the husband. But if the scenario ever loses the script–if the two women really do hit it off and stop “faux-humiliating” the husband–the husband gets angry. In that case, he is no longer being faux rejected but truly rejected. Overwhelmed, he has to stop the role play.
I’ve thought of that fetish in the same light as an obsessive-compulsive tendency. This is a man who can’t handle his baseline feelings of shame–the potential to be humiliated, to lose his woman’s love or his sense of control in real life. So he sets up tightly-orchestrated scenarios in which he can live out the “normal” human emotion of shame, to some extent. Here, he still controls the timing of the shame. He’s the one directing it. He’s the one who can turn it off. He can enter the real world through his own tightly-imposed organization.
I’ve recently heard a nice turn of phrase, which is that we do most of what we do to live within our “safety range.” We each feel safe in different activities. Some of us feel safe when we’re exercising physical power, even if that means jumping out of planes. Some of us feel safe in obedience. Some of us feel safe by maniacally compartmentalizing things that overwhelm us.
I wonder if you know of an anxiety you deal with through heightened orderliness. A friend recently gave me an example as easy as this: In graduate school, he always needed to clean his room before he started studying. He simply needed to impose some order on the external world, to make the mess of the internal world feel less like a mess.
I have some mild compartmentalizing tendencies, too: I need the gym every day as a scheduled release of anxious energy. I snack rather than indulge in big meals, controlling intake that way. I keep messy stacks of paper around the house, which I know the contents of pretty completely.
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