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dungeonplace podcast

We’re proud to have Unspeakableaxe from the Masocast podcast  (www.masocast.com) joining us for a simulcast.

Please to enjoy!

Topics

• Subjecting three kinky women to Chat Roulette (pre-roll) (www.chatroulette.com)
• Let’s play “Compare the Kink!”
  • Describe the “Lifestyle scene” in New York and in Utah. Let’s contrast the differences, if any.
• Rumors of Thunder In The Mountain’s demise – A great loss or simply the progression of things?
  • Thoughts?
  • Are there TOO MANY “Events?”
• Rihanna’s gonna play a Dominatrix…do we really need another (half-assed, over hyped) portrayal of our kink in the Mass Media?
  • If you’re gonna do it, do it right!
  • http://www.stuff.co.nz/entertainment/3332189/Rihanna-to-play-dominatrix

Panelists: Unspeakableaxe, Tutivillus, DarlingEvil, Sythen, Goddess, Gamer, Juju_Bee, LScribbens, Minx, SyrBigDog, Aine43

Tags: podcast, masocast, dungeonplace, kink, kinky women, new york, utah, bdsm, fetish, kinky podcast, fetish podcast, thunder in the mountains, dominatrix, rihanna, lifestyle

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Contradictions.

Should the life of a Kink require we live like we’re two separate halves of a whole being? I’m not talking about knowing when it’s “the time or place” for kink – I’m speaking of living and being happy with all parts of our lives.

Sadist, masochist, kink, submissive, master…shouldn’t matter.  God-fearing, godless, Democrat, Republican, family, single. Is one half of you pulling on the other until you feel like you’re being torn apart?

If yes? If this life is stressing you with the contradictions, it’s time for a change.

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• The BDSM Lifestyle – What do we love most?
• What makes us a Community?
• Fondest Scene?
• Describe your favorite toy…why?

Frottage: No-penetration body grinding done with or without clothes in public or in private.

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Are we any different?. Kinkster utahdude49 started this discussion on Fetlife.com, and it’s a good one! The question is this (very minor format editing applied):

Do you think that you are any different than the neighbor who lives next door to you ?

We both have likes and dislikes but i don’t think that I am any different then he/they are.

What do you say ?

Is your lifestyle any different then the person next door ?

Thoughts?

You have to concentrate on the things that matter most. On occasion that means dropping the 24/7 and routing to “when I can”, then not feeling a second’s regret about being human.

Done and done.

Personally, however, it’s time to dial up the time-clock and let the paddles fall where they may!

“It’s a Lifesyle.”

Some argue that and it’s okay. One foot in a set direction isn’t exactly a complete journey. There’s a lot to cover and thousands of Sites cloning one another to write it.

So I’ll say it. Things are rough and require attention. This isn’t about economy or jobs or money. It’s about life and focus. So if we’re a bit scattered? Well it’s because one or two things (not all bad) supersede Lifestyle.

Don’t worry though. We’re still here, writing, photographing, creating…building.

This weekend is a Simon Blaise weekend.

A local group I belong to has brought him in for the weekend. He’ll be giving demonstrations and attending a play party today.

Last night there was a formal reception held in Simon’s honor. I’ll be honest – meeting national presenters always makes me a bit hesitant and wary. I wonder at the ego, the demeanor, the approach. I’ve met some people I have not enjoyed. Most have left me with a renewed sense of Kink and energy…so I should honestly lighten up. Still, I remind myself to open my mind and give everyone a chance.

What about Simon?

My first impression was meaningless. He seemed exactly as he portrays himself. A man who lives the BDSM lifestyle in the New Generation.

DarlingEvil and I walked forward and joined the small circle giving introductions. The second impression formed. He’s fun! A presenter, a performer…yes. He’s also someone who remembers people (he remembered DE from her profile on FetLife on sight…but who wouldn’t!) He’s approachable and personable.

Today we go to the demos and the play party.

DE has arranged to learn/experience some rope corsetry and possible suspension. I’ve left my card pretty wide open…I want to go with the flow this evening (although I’ve negotiated an opportunity to beat a delightful submissive).

Rejoining the kink subculture here has been a wonderful experience for us. I’ve missed these people and I’ve been so happy to meet new friends.

And yes…we’re taking a camera this time.

-Tutivillus

Perhaps I am Old School in this regard. Perhaps I have lost the memo announcing “the race”.

Are people in the BDSM lifestyle losing the willingness/desire to negotiate? It’s important! A key to building trust and learning about what will be done during a Scene. It’s how a Dom finds what the sub is looking for and allows them to key in and tweak those needs.

Dom: (let me know if *any* of these questions make you uncomfortable)
sub: Yes.
Dom: Safe words work here too!
sub: Thanks.
sub: I’m not uncomfortable.
Dom: Okay. Respect is key.
sub: Understood.
Dom: Humiliation during a scene?
sub: Not really. It’s not something I’m comfortable with right now.
Dom: Got it, we’ll put that on the “Soft Limits” list.

It’s also important to note this…Negotiation is where a scene begins. It’s an Art. Skillful negotiation by a Dom can show their ability to take control. Skillful negotiation by a sub can show their ability to keep control and surrender when they see the situation fitting their comfort level and desires.

I am a firm believer in this. If you’re not doing it (especially in the begining of a D/s “relationship”) then you’re only asking for troubles.

-Tutivillus