The Importance of Protocol

Here’s a question for the Dominants, Masters, Daddys and Owners (etc.) out there.

“How important is Protocol in your D/s relationships?”

Do you have an established protocol? Is it something you teach your playmates, partners, properties? Or do you just wing it?

My personal opinion is this…as a whole, we’ve let Protocol slide. Do you agree or disagree?

I’d like your opinions.

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Topic 1: Sex in Scenes at the “public” parties. Where the hell is it??
Topic 2:
Is BDSM an addiction?

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    http://www.objectum-sexuality.org/

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    Panelists: Tutivillus, DarlingEvil, Goddess, Gamer, Meow, Jay, Carah, Daen

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    Protocol: Breaking it down with Jodi.

    Topic 1: Body image issues… overcoming fear and stereotypes.

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    Topic 3:Accountability when a M/s D/s relationship ends?
    How responsible are you for offering a sense of closure? How much closure is enough?

    Topic 4: Switching… How hard is it really? Can I learn to be both at the same time?

    Topic 5: Sterilization methods

    When you don’t own an autoclave. How do you keep your stainless steel implements sanitary?

    Cold sterilization. Or you can ask a piercing shop if you can pay to have them autoclave

    your implement (s) for you. What other options are out there?
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    • Bringing more Kink into a relationship

    Kinky word of the day:
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    • What would you want to be?… What would you make someone be?

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    Tutivillus, DarlingEVil, Meow, Jeff, Jodi, Sythen, Gamer, Goddess.

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    BDSM Protocol Questions

    Club Choices

    Kick the bricks and scream against the wind.

    Protocol has taken me some time to gentle my way through. It’s been a journey. At the turning point I decided to research the reasons behind the protocol in this particular way of life.

    Q: Why do some organizations make it feel like you’re in the military?

    A: Simple – Respect and discipline. You’re in their “house”, you follow their rules and accept them. Besides, it allows a room full of people some silence and a single voice to be heard.

    I’ve had friends express some serious dislike of this aspect of protocol. That’s okay. I didn’t either. Over time I stopped listening to the words and began looking at the mechanism behind them – then it made complete sense.

    I suggest you discover what protocol exists at your various haunts and learn the “why” behind them. You may well be amazed at the tradition you’ll discover folks!

    -Tutivillus

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