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This is not an “Anti-Polyamory” post — but it may upset a few people.

Alright, you’ve been warned.

I’ve watched, carefully, over the years to see what happens in the poly relationships I’ve witnessed. What I’ve seen has been tragic (with 2 or 3 exceptions)…and I really only know 1 family that’s managed to pull off a “Long-Term” poly relationship.

A few others were great for a year or two before some form of amicable split. Most just went down in flames and took a lot of victims with them.

My question here is simple:

“When do you call Poly a personal failure and move on?”

“Do you just keep on trying? Or redefine and create relationships of a different type?”

I look forward to the answers!

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• What is abuse in a kink/BDSM relationship?
• Is there a difference between abuse in the ‘vanilla’ and kink community?
• What do we do about abuse in the Kink/BDSM Community?

Utah 2009 report on Domestic Violence: http://media.bonnint.net/slc/1702/170296/17029623.pdf

National Leather Association Domestic Violence Project: http://www.nlaidvproject.us/
The vision of the NLA-I Domestic Violence Project is to create a national and international network to provide information, appropriate referrals, resources, and safe shelters for those in the world community who have been subjected to abusive and violent BDSM relationships and who are seeking a way out of those relationships or who require a more extensive support network than is otherwise available to them.

Site of the day: http://www.thenetworklared.org/smvsabuse.htm

This is the site we used to define abuse in Kink, S/M and BDSM relationships for this episodes of the podcast.

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Tags: podcast, abuse, bdsm, kinky, s/m, relationships, abusive relationships, bdsm abuse, kink abuse, support network, fetishcast, dungeonplace, domestic violence, vanilla, national leather association

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There’s a fine line, often blurred by twisted emotions, manipulations and dark illnesses left untreated. In our Community it can be common, spread by a few onto many unwilling victims.

How does one deal with a D/s relationship gone dark?

• First? Get the hell out!
  
• Call the Police. Although we’re often taught the Police may not be our friendliest Allie, in this case they most certainly are (in most cases you’ll find the Law is very much your friend).
• Do not feed Drama, but if you’re in a tightly knit community with common, public parties?
• …Get a Restraining Order. You may well have to quietly inform event organizers of the Order and provide a copy as proof.
• Did I mention “Do Not Feed Drama”?
• Take NOTHING personally.
• Do not put yourself in a vulnerable position! Protect yourself (legally) and your property (these cowards enjoy taking frustrations out on property).

There are many other recommendations and advices to be given. I’d love to hear them.

Care to share?

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Children in a Kinky household – Where is the line between “safe” and “dangerous” exposure when it comes to 24/7 relationships?

Interview with Luna from Submissiveguide.com

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Tutivillus, DarlingEvil, Goddess, Gamer, Meow.

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to hell with monogamy

What makes an Open relationship in BDSM?

I asked this question on FriendFeed yesterday and got a fairly typical response. It was simply a response from a fairly “vanilla” audience. So I ask a more “Kink-centric” audience the question.

When do you consider a relationship “Open”?

• Is it the act of letting go of your partner while they play in a Scene with another?
• Is it you or your partner participating in the various acts of sex in all it’s various and wonderful forms with another?

I’m not talking about Polyamory. I’m addressing the concept of Open relationships. Engaging in Play (provide your own definition of that word) without the additional attachment you find in Poly situations.

Thoughts?

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