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Kick the bricks and scream against the wind.

Protocol has taken me some time to gentle my way through. It’s been a journey. At the turning point I decided to research the reasons behind the protocol in this particular way of life.

Q: Why do some organizations make it feel like you’re in the military?

A: Simple – Respect and discipline. You’re in their “house”, you follow their rules and accept them. Besides, it allows a room full of people some silence and a single voice to be heard.

I’ve had friends express some serious dislike of this aspect of protocol. That’s okay. I didn’t either. Over time I stopped listening to the words and began looking at the mechanism behind them – then it made complete sense.

I suggest you discover what protocol exists at your various haunts and learn the “why” behind them. You may well be amazed at the tradition you’ll discover folks!

-Tutivillus

photo credit: Daquella manera

Do you remember the post “Barely Legal“? Where DarlingEvil and I discuss my Ex-Wife and bringing her in to be our submissive for an evening?

This is the story of that evening.

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Play with T was not a new thing – that was pure sexual fun. We had all managed to find a balance of respect and mutual enjoyment that allowed such a relationship to exist – not an easy path to create, but a very worthwhile endeavor.

Throwing a D/s element into this mix was a whole new level of complexity. T and I had this relationship during our marriage. We weren’t 24/7, but it was practiced as an element of our life. DE and I also had this element. Merging those layers and depths of meaning could cloud, confuse or simply bring a pain unwanted.

Understanding this, we moved ahead.

The scene was planned for a Wednesday night in a freeway motel.

-Tutivillus

Yes kids, they did “The Choking Game” when I was a kid too. When I was (far too young) and ran into the “woman” who brought me into this lifestyle (she was 2 years older than me and knew way too much for her age), we conducted breath play.

From that point on, it’s been a piece of my sexuality. I love doing it, having it done. I have seen it go wrong. I’ve had subs go into full “Fight or Flight”. I’ve seen people go into seizures and take far too long to come back.

It’s a dangerous play. Here’s my caution…if you do this? Learn HOW to do it. DO NOT DO IT unless you know basic life-saving skills (CPR). Understand the dangers of this play so you can enjoy the benefits.

Oh yes! I love this activity. But make no mistake, I respect it completely.

-Tutivillus