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Wicked things are more fun when planned and executed by multiple evil minds. The brainstorms started when devious intentions combine, spark, gain momentum and feed off one another? They accelerate from mere storms to forces of dark nature in seconds.

Submissives and slaves whisper and glance fearfully. Their flesh and spirits yearning for the force of such unions to be released.

Such scenes and play recharge. They feed. Doldrums are often broken and transformed into raging seas where demons ride the waves laughing and screaming with joy.

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(Yes…I’m on a gas mask kick)

Terror Play.

If ever you plan on opening this door, remember that it starts during your initial negotiations with the sub/slave/etc.

Here’s an example of what I’m talking about.

I am a careful negotiator and I take my time. I use notebooks to document the conversation.

Likes, dislikes, limits (soft and hard), reactions…and that’s where the key to Terror Play lies.

You can learn more about a submissive by their reactions to a subject than you can by their words. If their skin flushes, their pupils react, their fingers twitch? If their bodies react involuntarily? You know you have something.

I write that down and mark it. After a few minutes I re-visit, gently probe that subject. I put a “T” next to it if there’s a possibility of Terror Play.

Later, if TP never pops on the Hard Limit list and isn’t a non-negotiated Soft Limit?

WHAM…that list comes out to play.

Just a little something for your Tuesday reading.

Thoughts? Sound off.

I’ll be the first to admit.

Get me in a room with a couple of really sick and twisted Kinky folk. Lube the situation with some basic chatter and before the clock can roll more than five minutes devious things begin to happen.

It starts with simple talk. A basic skeleton forms, we throw tendon, muscle, skin at it. Soon it’s a breathing, living beast of evil intent. A group Scene is born!

Gather the victims, pull the supplies, make it happen. A chorus of screams is one of the most beautiful and satisfying things in my world. I love it. I start laughing wildly as I work – a maniacal smile cracking across my face.

Beautiful.

Synergy.

Momentum.

photo credit: nenuache

An article to read in Psychology Today.

The Pleasure of Pain – Find out why one in 10 of us is into S&M.

A friend of mine (and fairly new submissive to the scene) contacted me and related a familiar tale of unfair woe.

A casual relationship ends, she lets it be known that she is kinky. Man freaks and begins the abuse, using the kink as a pivot for abuse (did we mention that he’s vanilla?)

A word folks.

We’re not broken. We’re actually fairly normal! We’re just honest with ourselves.

Next time anyone tries to abuse you because you’re in touch with your sexuality? Thank them, smile and walk away…forever.

Something about regular Play Parties is the planning.

Considerations:

Usually I spend a lot of time planning out various scenes. If I know I cannot do them myself I’ll arrange another person to work my sub with. If I lose interest in the scene, I’ll make sure to pass it on. If it looks like something that would be a better photo shoot, I’ll put it off as a Studio Scene.

Some scenes get me very excited. I know not all scenes will work with every sub, so I’ll immediately begin looking for “the right sub” as I’m planning the logistics. Since I tend to be very patient and negotiate thoroughly, I take my time finding the right submissive. I do tend to make my scenes somewhat extreme. I will not put someone in a situation that’s above their heads and above their thresholds; that combination is a bit too dangerous in dynamic environment.

Gather:

This is work. This is hard work.

I have a good friend. He has 2 girls. It is becoming routine for he and I to bounce questions, ideas, thoughts and general philosophies off of each other. In short, we’ve become a 2 man support team. He watches me, I watch him. We give each other advice and encouragement. What I’ve learned over the years (and what had held me back) was the simple fact that the D/s, D/g, BDSM relationships were not easy.

They are the most complex relationships I’ve entered into. I wouldn’t call them “difficult” (they’re only as difficult as we make them), but they are challenging. In turn they are endlessly rewarding. They aren’t a “Feast of Sex”. They aren’t a chorus of screams and torture.

I believe they are this (for all parties):

A constant journey of sacrifice, surrender, release, discovery and love.

I am pleased beyond any words I can place on these pages to be sharing this journey with my DE and my girl and all of you.

No. It’s not easy. But it sure as hell isn’t difficult.

Liars and Cheats

Old, old story. And for me, an old comedy.

Man (or woman) Wants. They do not Get in their current relationship. Rather than being honest about it, they take off into that shadow place we know as “Lie”.

I’ve been a victim of this. It was a serious, serious hot spot for me for a long time. Now, it’s just something I get a laugh out of.  I was a serious cheat in my Teen years. Once I got engaged, I took the commitment very seriously. Even in an Open Relationship I take it seriously. DE knows everyone I talk to, approach and have any kind of relationship.

Unfortunately, not many are brave enough to take the path of honesty here. Or they use the term “Open Relationship” as an excuse to behave badly. Lately I’ve spoken with several subs in the area who are being approached by a Dom I know is married and who’s spouse, family, etc. have no idea what he’s up to.

I could “Out” him, but it’s not my place to judge. It is up to the Negotiation Process to ferret out the situation. Besides, it’s really none of my damn business! Would I do it? Hell no! Would I get involved with someone in this situation? I tend to say “NO!”…simply because I don’t want the personal drama.

However (yes…here comes the caveat) if it came down to a strict Use/use relationship? Who knows. It would be something I would definitely let DE know about and weigh her advice.

No, I don’t like seeing my friends, subs, etc. getting hurt or into situations with Liars and Cheats. But hey! It’s their life…

Comments?

-Tutivillus

candles, wax and breasts

I’ve been inspired by a photo on FetLife.

Closeup of a breast. It’s dark…the only light comes from a candle, tipped, wax dripping onto an erect nipple.

Who is spilling the hot onto that tender part remains unseen.

I saw this photo and immediately thought I must do a photo like this and put my own spin on it!

Then I thought…fuck that! I want this as part of a scene!

The idea flowed…force the sub to pour wax over their bodies. Standing, bound…one hand free, following my command at the risk of extreme punishement (I’m thinking electricity).

Take this idea, do it. If you have some pics you’d like to share? I’d LOVE to see (and post) them.

“Not many men are willing to break a woman” she said, taking a quick drag from her smoke. “I mean, they say they’re kinky, but when it comes right down to it, I want more…and they just can’t take me far enough.”

Pause. Sound of distant car slushing through a winter storm. More smoking, exhaling.

“Why is that?” She looked down the stairs to the driveway and the dark.

I had an answer for that question. It’s an answer I’ve had on a silver tray for a few years now.

“Men are programmed not to beat women, not to hurt them. That first real step towards becoming a Dom is realizing that you are going to hurt this woman and accepting the fact that you enjoy it just as much as she does.”

Violence, abuse, BDSM, sex, kink…these elements work in Lifestyle men like splinters. They conflict. They cause pain. They make us second guess and shy away from that dark edge. Every slap, each swing of a flogger works the splinter and twinges our senses. Start cutting a woman with a knife or shove the barrel of a gun into her pussy and the splinter becomes a stake.

I remember the moment I walked to that edge, looked over, closed my eyes and fell.

Turns out the edge was an illusion.

I did not become a serial rapist. I still crave vanilla sex. I’m not a serial killer…I’m nothing the preachers, counselors and parents warned us about.

I am a man — a Dom. I am also a loving father, partner and functional human being. Yes, I get off Dominating women (and men), but it is not the sole definition of my being.

We (men) need to realize this in our Lifestyle. You can lose yourself in a Scene without sacrificing your soul. You will come back and you will have echos.

Whenever I do a hard Scene with a female sub I do feel the splinters. I often see men and women observing the scene with tears or full sobs. Some have to leave. Others are fascinated — almost hypnotized by Scene violence.

When it’s over I need aftercare as much as my sub…but I get by giving. A few minutes later I want quiet time, then I move back into the social circle.

I feel alive, humbled and grateful. For a few minutes I became a mighty Titan. Now I am just the skin I see in a mirror every morning. The Edge empowered me and gave me new awareness…and showed me the way back to Self.

Now I know. I have known. I teach others and am taught. I’ve seen my “students” take up a flogger for that first time and swing…and I’ve seen them face to face with their partners afterwords…connected.

Be safe, be sane, be consensual. You will be frightened but you will come back knowing more than before you let yourself fall.

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Photo by DarlingEvil

-Tutivillus

Saturday night was play time. DarlingEvil and I attended a Play Party with a few of our friends and had carefully crafted the opportunity to do a Scene side-by-side. Since this was to be a premier of her Domme skills for this group, DE was a little nervous.

No need. She was magnificent.

It’s quite an experience to be with your Love while performing a Scene. It’s even better when both of you are within quick reach of the other, Dominating submissives.

As I taught my sub the joys that come with impact toys being concentrated on her ass, DarlingEvil was running zippers and paddles over her sub. The small room was flowing with people moving in and out to the sounds of play. A good friend carefully positioned himself with our camera and captured miscellaneous moments.

It’s Wednesday now and I still feel the deep joy and happiness of being able to share that time with DE. Our subs were incredible, the night was a wonderful experience.

Right now, I’m a very happy Dom.

-Tutivillus